It can be hard to know what to do when someone you care about is in a controlling or violent relationship. These tips can help.
Make a list of anything you see that doesn’t seem right. For example, watch for signs of:
Before you start a conversation with your friend or family member, call 1-800-799-SAFE (1-800-799-7233) to get the address and phone number of the nearest domestic violence agency.
This way, you’ll be ready to share the information if the person is ready for it. You may even want to offer to call or visit the agency together.
Make sure you have a private time and place for the conversation.
Does your friend or loved one:
Does your friend or loved one’s partner:
Try to help her see that the way she’s being treated isn’t right. The more specific you can be, the better.
People whose partners are controlling or violent may be in danger when they leave the relationship. If your friend or loved one is ready to leave an abusive partner, help him make a plan for getting out of the relationship as safely as possible. A domestic violence counselor can help with making a safety plan.
You can do your best to share your concerns. But your friend or loved one will decide what’s right for her, even if it doesn’t make sense to you. It can take time for someone to be ready to talk. Let her know that you are ready to talk again whenever she is.
Watching someone you care about stay in an unhealthy relationship is hard. You can get support, too. Call 1‑800‑799‑SAFE (1-800-799-7233).
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