Peer pressure (influence that members of the same age group can have over each other) becomes a great risk to our children once they reach middle school. But, even young children can exert pressure on their classmates. The human need to belong is strong even in preschoolers and, already, they are becoming more concerned with what their friends think and do than what the adults in their lives think and do.
Children give into peer pressure because they want to be liked, they don’t want their peers to make fun of them, or the other kids are doing it. And, sometimes, they are just curious. Start helping children build their confidence and skills to say “no” when they are very young and continue to foster their their refusal skills as they grow. These skills are critically important especially during times of change or transition (i.e. elementary to middle school, middle school to high school). If these skills are well-developed, as they reach adolescence and encounter the negative peer pressure to engage in very risky behaviors, such as smoking, drinking, and sexual activity, they will be able to say “no.”
Purpose:
To help children discover and practice refusal skills and recognize and appreciate each other’s strengths
Materials:
Preparation:
Procedure:
For Younger Students (3-4)
Teaching Note: Finish the activity by going to “For Everyone.”
For Older Students (5-6)
As with any class discussion with young children, the most important thing is to make them comfortable talking about things they may have done that were not “right.” You may need to do a lot of prompting at first, but children will begin to respond.
For Everyone
Distribute a copy of “My Very Best Self” and art supplies to each student. Attach a photo of each child to his/her handout. If photos are not available, have the students draw a picture of themselves inside the balloon. Help children write several things about themselves that make them feel good; then, decorate the balloons. Mount the balloons where others in the school can see and share your students’ accomplishments.
Going Further:
Materials:
Play Building Blocks for a Healthy Future Sing-Along Songs: Power Positive and display the lyrics of the song, if possible. Ask the children to take turns moving, walking, strutting with the music. Have the children talk about how the music makes them feel. (Answers will vary, but should include: strong, confident, proud) Have them briefly talk about the things that they do well and that make them feel strong.
Resources
From Education.com
“Dealing with Preschool Peer Pressure” from More4Kids gives parents of preschoolers tips on how to handle peer pressure.
“Peer Pressure,” from the Encyclopedia of Children’s Health, explores peer pressure and peer relations across the age groups.